Marriage is not just a relationship between the parties involved as often a marriage between persons usually consists of a union of both families. Managing in-law relationships can be quite tricky especially when it seems like your significant other is always having a go at your family, right or wrong. To handle situations like this, you have to be responsible, responsible for your original family to create a, less frosty relationship between them.
Because you are in both camps, it is your, job to manage the relationship between both parties; it is unfair to leave this role to your spouse. In this article, we will be taking a look at eight quick tips for managing the relationship between your partner and your original family.
1. DO PRIORITIZE
Yes, your initial family matters but from the moment you agreed to go into marriage, your loyalties shifted a bit, making your partner and your marriage a priority. Whatever it is, when handling situations, look to manage it in a manner in which both parties don’t feel offended or short-changed.
2. IT’S OKAY TO SET BOUNDARIES
You and your spouse must define the boundaries of your marriage. For instance, deciding on who comes in, when and under what conditions. By setting limits it doesn’t mean cutting them off, it only means having critical things and times to yourself as a couple. Sharing these moments and prioritizing it helps strengthen the bond with your partner. As the Bible points out Ephesians 5:31, “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and joined with his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
3. KEEP AN OPEN MIND
It’s easy to feel victimized when either our partner or family speak critically about either party, but it’s important we keep an open mind and address these issues for what they are, devoid of any unfairness and whenever any party is wrong, point out whatever faults or misunderstandings there may be with love.
4. NEVER STOP TRYING TO FIX THINGS
Sometimes the relationship between our partner and family can grow to become sour, and you would feel like giving up and letting this stay bad the way they are. Well, the truth is we all need our family, as much as we need our partners and it’s imperative both camps have a healthy relationship. Therefore, whenever issues arise, however long they may linger, we must never give up on trying to mend it.
5. DON’T BETRAY EITHER PARTY
You must be clear about what is okay to share with either your husband or your original family. Do not betray the vulnerabilities of either party and always focus on the positives of either relationship.