Painful as it may seem, it is possible to have a great relationship with your in-laws as they too are humans and often would rather have a great relationship with you. A good number of the problems which arise between you and your in-laws results from miscommunication and sometimes merely fear so it’s important we address whatever concerns we may have.
Some simple tips to help you have a great relationship with your in-laws.
1. BE HUMBLE- KNOW AND ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FAULTS
The most important advice for having a great relationship with your in-laws is to practice humility because the truth is we are all human. You have your quirks, weaknesses’ and habits which can be as difficult to accept as your in-law’s habits, weaknesses, and quirks. What’s not okay is focusing on the flaws and weaknesses of others while ignoring ours. It takes humility to open to our faults and acknowledge them as only through humility can we forgive.
2. STOP JUDGING YOUR IN-LAWS
You can’t love your in-laws when you when you constantly judge, condemn and criticize their actions and words. By developing an accepting mindset, you are more open to accepting your in-laws for who they are, and you will feel much happier in their presence. It’s easy for us to see things only through our eyes and expect everyone to act just like we do, forgetting that we are all very different persons, with different stories and lives.
Sometimes judging others takes so much of our time that we can never get back. It’s impossible to love and be judgmental at the same time, and when you are judging, you are not letting God work through you. Judgment brings no reward, and there’s nothing useful or valuable about it.
3. AVOID BEING ALONE WITH DIFFICULT IN-LAWS
If you have severe issues with any in-law, no matter who they may be, avoid putting yourself in situations which involves you spending a lot of alone time with them. In the process, this protects you and them from potential problems and ensures you always have a witness for things which they may say or do.
4. ACCEPT YOUR IN-LAWS FOR WHO THEY ARE AT THE MOMENT
Fact is, you will never change your family of in-laws. They are who they are, and no amount of fighting or wishing will make any difference. Just the same way it is difficult for you to change your personality, so it is as difficult trying to change other people. Therefore you must accept people for who they are, and this is the best way develop a great relationship with your in-laws.
5. BE KIND
You are not the only one suffering, everyone has their issues which they are struggling with, and it’s only by being kind that can they open up to you and be less confrontational. If one has a good relationship with God then you would know that suffering is a part of being human and knowing that it’s not uncommon for people to react badly under distress, we will be more kind.
We have to be kind to others, be kind to ourselves and accept without criticizing or judging.