Marriage is not just a relationship between the parties involved as often a marriage between persons usually consists of a union of both families. Managing in-law relationships can be quite tricky especially when it seems like your significant other is always having a go at your family, right or wrong. To handle situations like this, you have to be responsible, responsible for your original family to create a, less frosty relationship between them.
There’s a reason you can tell your mother she’s driving you crazy but just cannot tell your mother-in-law- you don’t have a relationship with her, you didn’t grow up with her, and you don’t know how she would react to your criticism. The same thing applies to every other in-law you have.
Painful as it may seem, it is possible to have a great relationship with your in-laws as they too are humans and often would rather have a great relationship with you. A good number of the problems which arise between you and your in-laws results from miscommunication and sometimes merely fear so it’s important we address whatever concerns we may have.
Is it possible to have a great marriage even though your in-laws are difficult? Yes, it is very likely, just like it's possible to have a beautiful yard also though there are a few weeds. If you are considering divorce because you do not like your in-laws, that's like selling your house just because of a few dandelions in the lawn.
Most of us when we think about marriage, we think about the joys, trials, and tribulations which come along with it before tying the knot but, not many of us consider how our relationship with our in-laws would be. Truth is our in-laws are an integral part of our lives, and they should be, but sometimes in being a part of our lives, a lot can start to go wrong.
We all can think of at least three people in our lives that have caused us more harm than good and for some reason we keep putting up with their with their behaviors. It's not that the whole person is toxic. Rather, their behavior is toxic or your relationship with that person is toxic. Many terrible in-laws will use you to make themselves feel better and most likely don't know how to love and treat others with love, respect compassion and so on. Toxic in-laws often have alot of hurt and pain in their won lives, and their unhappines just seeps into every relationship they have.